Guest Post: When My Daughter Became a Mother

My daughter and I are a lot alike. We share similar values: nurturing family ties, communicating openly, celebrating birthdays and holidays, taking care of our bodies with exercise and healthy food, vacationing together as a family and enjoying satisfying conversations with close women friends. Becoming a Grandma Thirteen years ago when my daughter was pregnant [...]

By |April 3rd, 2016|2016, Guest blogs|2 Comments

Guest Post: My Mother, My Daughter, My Roommate

More and more young adults are moving back home post-college, which can be a big adjustment for both mother and daughter. MDF follower Lauren (daughter) recently moved home to make a career change; in this week's post, she and her mother Karen  share their thoughts about how their new living arrangement has impacted their relationship. [...]

By |March 27th, 2016|2016, Guest blogs|Comments Off on Guest Post: My Mother, My Daughter, My Roommate

Guest Post: I Will Love You Unconditionally

Last week's blog post was a touching mother-daughter profile by Gretchen and Laura.  This week, Laura returns to share a candid story about her mother's unconditional love - one that gave her invaluable insight about herself and her other relationships. As a life coach, it is my distinct privilege to be privy to my clients' [...]

By |March 5th, 2016|2016, Guest blogs|Comments Off on Guest Post: I Will Love You Unconditionally

The Honest Truth by Julia Wexler

Jenna met Julia Wexler on campus last week when she spoke at a WWIB event. Her 17 year-old daughter was also in attendance at the event to support her mom during the seminar. Jenna invited both to attend the upcoming Wharton Mother-Daughter Weekend. After participating in the mother-daughter event, Julia tells this touching story about [...]

By |October 28th, 2015|Guest blogs|2 Comments

My Rent-A-Kid

Not every mother-daughter relationship is a biological one.  After all, the American household is very diverse with grandparents, same sex parents and adoptive parents raising children as their own. Here we interview Diana who, along with her husband Dave, enrolled in the Big Brother Big Sister (BBBS) program and has enjoyed a mother-daughter relationship with [...]

By |February 22nd, 2015|2015, Guest blogs|Comments Off on My Rent-A-Kid

Have a Nice Guilt Trip

A humorous book titled "Have a Nice Guilt Trip" has just appeared on the bookshelves and eReader lists.  This fourth book of an essay series written by best-selling author Lisa Scottoline and her daughter Francesca Serritella shares funny and warm stories about their family and how guilt is just a side effect of having and being a [...]

By |July 13th, 2014|2014, Guest blogs|Comments Off on Have a Nice Guilt Trip

Guest Post by Kimberly McCoy: Connecting when Ocean’s Apart

Inspired by the MDF posts Letting Go and Relationship Reminders, friend and follower Kim McCoy writes from Sweden about how she and her mom created a beautiful and lasting memory that connects them even though they're oceans apart: The oak chest stands in our bedroom. Like any other bureau, it contains the miscellaneous receipts, loose [...]

By |June 22nd, 2014|2014, Guest blogs|4 Comments

Guest post: Mother-Daughter Lifestyle Bloggers

We contacted Janette and Jordan a few months ago after we got hooked on their mother-daughter lifestyle blog, The 2 Seasons.  They were so gracious in welcoming us to Blogland and sharing their story (and their tips).  If you're handy and creative, you're going to love trying out some of their DIY decorating projects or [...]

By |May 17th, 2014|2014, Guest blogs|Comments Off on Guest post: Mother-Daughter Lifestyle Bloggers

When your Daughter becomes a Mother

Christine's daughter Elissa and her sons, Marsden (4) and Roman (1) Christine Brown, MDF follower, recently posted a comment on our blog, The Next Generation Begins!  Her thoughts were so beautifully expressed, we had to share:   "Being a Grandma is spectacular on many levels. I am a Grandma to my daughter Elissa's [...]

By |May 15th, 2014|2014, Guest blogs|Comments Off on When your Daughter becomes a Mother

Guest Post: Mothers, Daughters and Gender Roles

Krista Jenkins, Associate Professor of Political Science at Fairleigh Dickinson University, interviewed mothers and daughters to study how two generations of women interpret the women’s rights movement and perceive gender roles in their own lives. In this post, Krista shares the fascinating results of her research: The fact that we look to our moms for cues on how to navigate the world around us is not limited to advice on child rearing and cooking, as my research on the political socialization of women shows. It turns out that the old adage “Mother knows best” is proven true when it comes to the kinds of cues that moms send their daughters about gender roles in both public and private life. What does this mean, you ask? Well, years ago, while I was in grad school at Rutgers earning my Ph.D. in political science, I participated in a research project that involved interviewing mothers and daughters, both of whom had attended the same women’s college a generation apart. The central question was “How did two generations of women, who had been socialized in different eras but who shared family and college connections, resonate to the women’s movement and its call for gender equality?” The moms attended college during the movement’s heyday – the 1970s – when gender equality sounded revolutionary, while the daughters were attending college during what some have dubbed the post-feminist era – when gender equality sounds almost passé. What I found in my research was clear evidence of a maternal influence when it comes to how young women perceive traditional gender roles. Career choices, childrearing plans, strategies for dealing with the inevitable sexist in public life – they are all areas ripe for maternal influence. That is, how a mother navigated waters rife with gendered expectations is likely to influence how her daughter approaches gender roles in her public and private life. The women with whom I spoke were all educated and, for the most part, disdainful of any attempts to use gender as criteria for determining one’s lot in life. The moms all worked at some point after college, and the daughters were all contemplating careers in a variety of professions. In short, at least at face value, there was nothing about this group of women that suggested a strong bias against women who worked outside the home, particularly when there were small children at home. And yet, when I encountered a mom who worked sporadically and took a significant number of years off to raise children, she was likely to have a daughter who planned to do the same, despite choosing a career that was unlikely to accommodate interruptions for maternal duties. To wit, here’s an exchange with a daughter who hoped to pursue a career in the pharmaceutical industry. Her mother stayed home to raise children and worked only when they were older. A: I would definitely not send them (my children) to day care. I would definitely take time off until they reached school age level, and then resume working part-time. Q: And why would you definitely not have day care? A: I don’t know, I think a child should be raised by the mother. I think a lot of problems in what is happening today is kids are not getting the guidance they need, because you need two incomes now. Q: And what about the father? What should be the father’s role? A: For me personally, I would want the father of my child to be working. That is what I grew up with, and not to say that is the norm, but I would prefer to take care of my children and he could go and make the money. […]

By |March 2nd, 2014|2014, Guest blogs|Comments Off on Guest Post: Mothers, Daughters and Gender Roles